My baby didn’t come with instructions, did yours?
So it’s March 9, 2017 and my husband and I are so excited, we are leaving the hospital with our newborn baby boy, Henry. We were all packed up, Henry was all set in his 28 point harness carseat and we are just waiting for our car to arrive. As we say goodbye to all the nurses, I hop into the wheelchair and we are on our way downstairs. We pack Henry, our bags and myself into the back seat and my husband drives us home. WOW, we are headed home, the moment everyone waits for. We pull into the driveway, eagerly get out of the car and begin taking everything inside. My parents and friends have had flowers and food delivered so we had things to eat, Joey is frantically running around sniffing Henry all over and we both finally sit down. Well shit, NOW WHAT?!
Now what is right?! What the hell do I do with this baby? Where are the instructions, directions, schedule, anything? OMG, I am thinking to myself, how do I do this? I am 40 years old and I literally have no idea how I am going to keep this time human alive!
Those that know me already know this, but for those that don’t, I am overly Type A personality. I am not very spontaneous, I do not “go with the flow”, and I have lists upon lists and re-do my day planner at least once a month. I need a schedule and structure or else I don’t function very well. So how can I possibly keep my somewhat organized lifestyle while raising my son?
That first week we were home with him was complete chaos. I think I contacted every mom friend that I had, reached out to every single relative and almost bought a billboard asking for advice. It wasn’t until a very dear friend and former client of mine who knows me way too well sent me a very short and sweet email. She sent me an email with an attachment that just said:
"Henry is just adorable! Hope this info is of some use to you should you want to give it a try. As I said, it definitely takes discipline on your part & is not for everyone, but man it really does work! Sending you all lots of love & hugs!"
So my husband and I looked over it, and BINGO, the first few words were structure and schedule.......sign me up! We bought the book and immediately started. At this point Henry was exactly 2 weeks old. I later found out that two of my best friends followed the same thing whose kids are now one and two years old and swore by it.
My client was right, though, it was work. I had to say no to more things then I said yes to. I barely left the house unless it was to go to a friends, family or out for walks. I had spreadsheets out the wazoo. I have a spreadsheet for every day of Henry’s life from 2 weeks old until 15 weeks old. We kept track of everything. I was on a schedule, but it was Henry’s schedule. But that was okay, because it was the schedule I wanted Henry to have. Our goal as parents was to have Henry sleeping from 7pm to 7am with 2 scheduled naps during the day. With this schedule I could easily plan my day, and with the structure, Henry would be able to nap wherever he was.
So here we are, Henry is 21 weeks old and has been sleeping from 7pm to 7am from 15 weeks old! So to my dear friend and client....... YOU WERE RIGHT, MAN, IT REALLY DOES WORK!
So, now, I sometimes look back and wish I knew then during that first week what I know now, but then we wouldn’t have some of the funny stories of how we did live throughout those first two weeks!
******* NOTE: This is my blog, and is in no way meant to preach or judge. We are all moms just trying to survive and doing it in the way that works for us. I needed structure for my own sanity. This is not meant to take anything away from the schedule you are following.******
If anyone needs support on IVF, PPD or babies schedules, as always, please feel free to reach out. I am an open book.